Mewoman,
There is something very healthy and good feeling about setting boundaries and taking charge of your life. Congratulations to you for doing both!
And re your niece, Big Sis is right. We just never know what it will take to get their attention. I've learn to leave that stuff up to the addicted and their HP.
Hugs and prayers,
Hangin' In
P.S. Gotta love a woman with a power tool!