Originally Posted by
denny57 
Everyone is different. I do believe there are abusive men who drink. Because I believe alcoholism is a disease which affects certain areas of the brain, I also believe it can alter someone's behavior drastically to where they are acting in ways they would never had without the trigger of the drug. Only you know where your husband fits in the equation.
I'd spend the time remaining apart learning all I could about alcoholism, attending some Al-Anon meetings and reading and posting here. I believe you will come out better for all of it.
Good luck!
I truly believe that it's the alcohol that does it to him. When I spoke with my family about it they were shocked because he's so gentle and sweet when he's sober. This is the man that would spend hours with my grandpa who had dementia without so much as getting frustrated (even when it took him 30 min to get his shoes on cause he was so stubbon, God rest his soul!) It's just not him.
I will keep reading here! Thank you for the warm welcome