I knew i should leave but was not quite there..I wanted to believe he would change for us. i made up my mind to not make any decisions for 3 months. wrote it on the calander. then I kept a journal to write down the good and bad of each day. after 2 months I knew i had to do something. we tend to forget the bad stuff sometimes, and are so thankful for the good days, when they should all be good days!! when i looked back and read my journal i knew it was not getting better and never would. You'll know when you are ready it just happens. good Luck! hugs to you!