I wanted to add that addiction is not hopeless but the addict has to want it. But despite what your daughter is doing or not doing there is hope for a better life for you. There is hope that you can get better. I don't have meetings close to me but this forum has been a life saver for me. I have learned to have a good quality of life despite the fact that my daughter is still using. I have learned to make good boundaries for myself. This has helped me to have a limited relationship with my daughter without trying to control what she does. It has helped me to change my fear into faith. To trust God in her life and mine. And to practice "hands off the addict" while still loving my daughter. Letting her have the consequences for her using and not trying to soften the fall for her. There is hope for you. Hugs, Marle