counseling
My wife is completely against counseling. I understand some of her reasoning and honestly I'm ambivalent on the idea myself. It helped my mother to a point, but the real work my mom did for herself. I think the real benefit people derive comes from their own hard work and self-exploration. I know some counselors can help facilitate that process, I think we're reasonable and intelligent people and can faciliate it ourselves. Like I said I'm AMBIVALENT.
I think the idea of someone serving as a "mediator" of sorts would be helpful. However, my wife sees absolutely no worth in it. She doesn't believe it can be helpful for her and I don't think anything one of us does in isolation can be of help.
Thansk for your feedback. I know it's hard to deliver some diagnosis. I'm just trying to get some insight from people who might have been in her situation before - married to an adict.