Mair, I feel for you. When my ah was in the hospital with an aneurysm, I discovered he had not quit drinking as he had told me since his truck and closet were full of bottles I discovered when I was gathering his stuff to take to the hospital. I was MAD even though he was in his hospital bed hooked up to all kinds of machines!! It didn't stop his drinking, though.
Perhaps you don't have to make any big decisions right at this exact moment. You are not heartless. It's a tough spot you are in. RosieM