Khrea, I'm sorry this is happening but you are not a traitor to him...You're a mom who cares. He will not get it no matter what you say until he is truly ready to get it.
As to jail, you're right, no one knows...But I believe that he is going to be placed right where his Higher Power needs him to be. One more thing we can't control...Sending mom to mom hugs and lots of prayers.