Myles,
I feel like a traitor too sometimes when I turn inward. But do you know what? It is a feeling...that is all it is. Isn't that what HE is doing??
Be glad you HAVE a place to go...and go. Trust me, he will call.
And by all means get your child to a place where he can breath...kids know a lot more than we give them credit for.
Hugs,
JT