Hang in there hmbld. I'm in the same situation....for the last 6 months. AW has an apartment since she can't stay sober. It might take a relapse or two or ten. Mine's still figuring it out. What I do know is that there is peace in my house, although it's a lot of work being the primary caregiver to two teenage boys! The longer she's away the tougher it will be to get back together. It's weird.....
Stay tough!