kj21

I a finding it very hard to know the right things to do for my kids. My 13 year old daughter is doing fine. My son is 15 1/2. He seems very angry right now. He wanted my ah to move out. but he now gets so mad at me anytime I am not home. I have been working alot the last 5 weeks becouse of my job, catering Christmas parties, which i have been doing forever so it is not new to him that Dec is very busy for me. If i stay for a drink after work he gets very upset. He said the worries that I will end up like my AH.????? I have never, ever not been there for him. I always call, I go out with some friends maybe once a week if that. Last night was my work party. It started at 2 and when my son called at 4:00 he flipped. He said I was never home anymore, always out drinking...Where did that come from???? I am the always home mom, driving all the kids around, cooking dinner for thier friends...I was very hurt that he thinks of me like that. I explainded to him that some nights when he and his sister have friends over it is nice for me to go out and be with people and not dwell on everything else tht is going on in our lives right now. I don't think one night a week is too out of line? I am always home by 11:00pm
He later apologized and said he didn't mean it, but I think he just said it becouse he could see how upset I was. Is he manipulateing me to be home so I can drive him around and make dinner or is he really afraid I am going off the deep end. His age has something to do with it I am sure. It is hard being a mom of teenagers and dealing with my breakup ( who sends me messages that are a little suicidel) and christmas all at once...I am feeling a little overwhelmed. Thanks for letting me get this all out.