Visiting the alcoholics forum here also is interesting and informative. One thing I really notice is the talk tends to be about their own recovery, not what is going on in the lives of those around them.
I agree, Denny. I found the fast track to recovery the minute I realized that my alcoholic was focused on his recovery and I was focused on my alcoholic's recovery, too. Therefore nobody's attention was focused on me, so it's not surprising that I was stuck for so long. Then I realized it was a self-imposed immobilization and I could free myself.