sleepygoat,
It's hard to make the decision to help, or not...I know that I most likely do some things for my addicts, that I shouldn't be doing.
But in the long run, I ask myself Is this something I would do if my sons weren't drug addicts? Am I doing it for a Control reason, an enabling reason, or an I love you reason?
Sometimes we just have to do what feels right in our gut.
I try REALLY hard not to do things that they can do on their own.
Some things I do for my peace of mind.
(like retrieving that S.S. card, and birth certificate, so oldest AS could fly home...)
I also put a boundary on what I will and will not do. I'll do something once, but most likely not again. (like getting that S.S. card...
)
Hugs, from one mom to another.