Some support friends & family have told me the same thing. I want to do that, but what about the child we share.. I have spoken to a lawyer and I know I don't have to turn the child over to him, but then again I feel bad for not letting him see his dad. The dad says he won't drink when he has him and I have only let him see him once with unannouced people showing up and them not seeing any beer or smelling it. Thanks again Barbara.