When the A goes all over the place - first nice, then mean, then happy, then suicidal -- is what they call the "hook." It is designed to drag you back in by pushing whatever buttons they can.
By example: Last night my A made my dinner *and* left me a note stating where it was.....This morning he was one step from screaming in my face because he heard something he didn't like (who knows what it was).
What was the difference? 8 hours.
It's all about your babies. Remember that.
