Paj -
I'm not Catholic, but I also met with my pastor also before I separated. He is a wonderful man who has experienced the pain of divorce first-hand himself. He told me that I had tried everything that he could suggest. We also discussed whether I was fulfilling God's purpose for my life. He told me that God's plan would never leave me feeling so unhappy -- and it's OK to move on. Those words continue to bring me much comfort!