Originally Posted by
nowinsituation 
Are we entitled to one crappy day before we have to pull ourselves back together?
At least one!
Even though I have sucessfully moved on in oh so many ways and an working on me, there are still days when those thoughts of STBXAH try to cause me problems. Why can't he do what I know he should do? Why don't others in his life see him the way I see him? blah blah blah
Fortunately the strength of these counterproductive thoughts keeps getting less and less and the frequency keeps getting less and less. I know he is responsible for his choices, that others are responsible for their choices. I know I do not have, never did have, and do not want the power to make him do anything. I know his choices going forward do not affect me and who I am. This knowledge takes away the ability of the counterproductive thinking to get me back into the drama, even from a distance.