redbear- We have to sell the house, because we can't afford to support his apt. and our home. We're a sinking ship right now- and I am bailing out! I am incredibly sad about it, but I have to believe she and I will be ok in a smaller, easier to afford place. We haven't talked to her about all of this yet. You are probably right, though. I think we hid the drama from her pretty well, but I am sure- considering she is now 10- that she could feel the tension at times. Our house is more peaceful. I hope she feels that. My AH is seeing her regularly. Hopefully he won't flake out down the road.