Originally Posted by
Spiritual Seeker 
My son that is kinda trying to get his life in order has a difficult time voices his needs and emotions. Thank you for this reminder. If I am quick to jump in he won't have to grow or he will resent me.
I have learned a lot from my addict.
SS
This is a huge trigger for my behavior. My son will express his need for help by getting angry or talking nonsense or getting frustrated. It's sooooooo hard for me not to just jump in and either 1) Tell him what to do to make it better 2) Do it for him. I'm really really really bad about that.
I'm trying now to just say "hmmmm" when he does that and not say anything or DO anything unless he actually asks for my input (which he usually doesn't).
Resisting the urge to make everything all better or explain to him why what he is saying doesn't make sense is so very hard.
That urge bites me with regularity but I'm starting to get it.