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Old 12-13-2007, 10:48 AM
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Lilyflower
Recovering Codependant
 
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I hate confrontation. In my life I have attempted to avoid it whenever I can, but always seem to be in the midst of it. I am realising now that I have a fear of people not getting along. In my home as a child, when my parents argued, it either led to my Dad becoming agressive and threatening, or walking out on us. He would always come back, but I am left with that fear of abandonment now. I struggle with finding another solution to conflict other than these two routes.

In my attempts at 'surviving' an arguement I am involved in, I will resort to taking blame for everything in order for the tension to pass. When others around me argue, I do as you- I 'Fix' it.

I am codependent.
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