(((sjr))))
You're not a bad mom....you just got pushed too far. You don't deserve this.
I agree with everyone above. I know your daughter is young, but she thinks she is "grown". I think it's time she finds out what being "grown" involves. And it doesn't involve doing whatever you want, regrouping at mom's, then going back out. It DOES mean having to deal with your consequences.
Sending you many hugs and prayers!
Amy