yep, quack quack quack, that is all you hear
just a thought - if he is so miserable in marriage how about suggesting that he get himself out of it then? i've called ah out on that one a couple of times.
but, it is hard to lose an alcoholic -sorry, but it is true.
my therapist really helped me see that the hurtful things ah was saying were all a reflection on how he feels about himself - his words just didn't match up to his actions -because if he really felt the horrible things he said -he would not still be wanting to be with me. umm, hello.
i'm glad you have found alanon. looking inward is the start so that past mistakes are not repeated again. take the focus off ah and what he is doing and put it on yourself sweetie.
take care.