i used my cell phone
it can video and record. i also have pictures of AH passed out on it. when you have the proof right there a judge cannot ignore it and AH cannot say it never happened.
a LONG time ago i was advised to put all the bills in MY name and pay them with checks. you then have documentation that YOU are the ONLY one paying the bills and contributing to the house.
it is also very important to document and keep a journal in cases of abuse (not only as documentation) i think because it helps keep us out of denial of the situation we are in. it also helps keep us from minimalizing things. it is also a great form of release. keeping all of the anger and feelings inside is a death sentence in my opinion.
i do think taking action and taking a stand (IF YOU CAN DO SO SAFELY!) is the only thing that anyone else that we're allowing to abuse us will pay attention to. we send the message that we are not to be taken seriously when we don't. we allow people to treat us the way they do.