Ah Jen, the joys of divorcing your A!
Just like when we lived with them, during the divorce they blow with the wind. And this time they aren't even going to pretend they're concerned for us. Now they can really alter the truth to fit their agenda!
All circumstances are different. With my A, I picked my battles. My only "want" out of the whole deal was the kids and their safety. I gave XAH just about everything he wanted, leaving me with nothing (even though I'm the only one who brought any $ into the marriage and the only one who never once missed bringing in a paycheck.....) But I got full physical custody and he only gets visitation as I agree to it. (Sad thing is he never even had any demands concerning the kids ... just about money.)
Don't let him get to you. You're almost out. Let 'em quack, it's what they do best!