I put up with some bad behaviour while my ABF was drinking but he's been sober for 9 months now and I'm realizing that most of what I attributed to alcohol is really part of his personality. Things like criticizing me a lot, being self-centred, and not supportive of my interests. He has a lot of good qualities too and we have many interests in common - these things have kept me with him so far.
I don't know if he suffered brain damage - I think it's just him. He started drinking at 15 and stopped at 50 and yes, in many ways he's still 15.
Sigh, I am trying to get up my nerve to leave him. He is talking more about suicide which scares me, even though I know it's nothing to do with me really. I just feel like I might send him over the edge if I left.
Why can't things be simple???
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