Hi,
Yes it does seem that their lives out there never really get better unless they get themselves clean.
I see this also with my ex wife.
A few things here though.
One, you are no longer married to this man for some of the same reasons that are going on right now.
Be thankful that you are not in the middle of it. The only way you are really involved is that you let yourself be.
I’ve known you for awhile now and I hope you take this to heart.
You need to start working that program and stay the course. After this extended period of time you still think you matter and can change something that has nothing to do with you. It’s about him, his emotions and his choice. You must remember that.
Again there is nothing binding you to this situation accept the fact that you let yourself be tied to it.
I do understand you have children together, but again, they are better off away from the storm.