Originally Posted by
prodigal 
I had to teach myself to quit reacting to situations.
I didn't engage in conversations to discuss what we wanted or needed, what he was feeling, or what I was feeling. Going there can be a frustrating place.
I agree 100%. I think having those conversations with him, gaining a little ounce of hope, then being shot down again is too painful. He may sound like he'll change this time, but don't be too dissapointed if he goes back to his old ways. how is this time different than any other? it's healthier to focus less on him, and more on what your plan will be if he returns to his old ways. And if you do leave, no contact would be so important, so be cautious on what information you share with him. For your own safety, he shouldn't know your new address. :ghug