Originally Posted by
hopeangel 
i asked him to tell me as his friend of seven years if he had any true intentions of changing and i asked him to let me go if not.
He won't do this because it is not in the best interests of his disease, remember it comes first.
Originally Posted by
hopeangel he said that he would do the very best he could. he said he would go back to AA, try really hard to get a sponser, and work on the anger and abuse issues. he said he would do this, but he needed me to do it-without me he would do nothing he could not promise anything though.
This is a huge red flag, he needs you to blame when it goes bad.
Originally Posted by
hopeangel but, somehow, i felt like i owed it to him, myself, and our marriage, to give him this one last try
Again, the disease wants you to act in it's best interest not yours.