If you aren't ready, you aren't ready. There is no time table in effect here. You do what you think is right for you now. Nothing says that "now" won't change for you in the next 15 minutes. Or never. You just have to do what is right for you "now."
Originally Posted by
hopeangel 
i am probably losing a chance at a relationship with another very loving and good man who i have real feelings for
I have to ask. If you are serious about your marriage, what are you doing getting involved (?) with someone else? That doesn't seem to make sense to me.