AH INCARCERATED-Life possible
I posted some of this in another thread-thought I would post here-where I started SR in June. AH has been in the county jail for parole violation (finally). His court date-Jan 2008 for the "meth lab" (not his) but he knew about it because it was on his brothers land, how stupid can one be to allow someone to set up a lab? I know the addiction did it. He has a public defender and the case will go to trial. Divorce is on hold so I will not be forced to testify for my best friend (the police officer) nor testify for AH. My dog will have to go to court-if you can believe that-as a witness.
AH has not asked for material things-only once-and will not ever try that again. No money here-he got it all and then some. He asked if I would make phone calls for him-told him no-he had to do it-I did send the addresses and stamps. He has been a full blown addict for over 30 yrs. and has NEVER been offerred rehab. He has been in contact with 2 churches and one rehab center-but I don't believe he will ever get a chance now. He knows about SR-knows how much I have changed and is desperately looking for help. A brand new-just built county jail he is in-not like before-NO DRUGS there!!!!! He has been reading books about addiction and realizes he has a TRUE problem. I realize an addict in jail/prison will always "see the light"but for him to actually admit it and actually seek help is something new for him. He seems sincere-but I know beware!!!!!!! The SR 3 Cs-he has to do this himself!!!!!
I don't feel I am enabling him by sending addresses and stamps. Am I?
I finally got the truck back and now have to find the $ for ins.,plates, etc.-not in a big hurry-I go to town with a lady friend every Monday-that is enough.
Life is going along pretty well or as well as it can right now. Money is a problem but working on it. Only real stress is my male pup-is a fence jumper. Off he goes and comes home eventually. Vet said he will outgrow it.
I finally did get Beattie books and have another on the way. A much needed reading to better understand addiction and codependeny. (sp)
Guess now just keep plunking along and work on me----(and the darn pup). Thanks to SR-I am going to be a survivor and a better person.