(((((((GoldenGuru))))))))
I'm sorry for what you and your family are going through with your bil.
Sounds worse than a big, pink elephant.
Everyone had great thoughts, advice, and shared experiences before me.
I grew up with that elephant in every household that was related to my family.
It was tough. I've had 2 brothers, my mother, stepfather, uncle, and cousin, die
from addiction/alcohol.
At present I have 2 nephews, an ex-husband, and my son who are all addicts/alcoholics.
My son is 26, but when he was 22 I had him arrested for robbing my home.
He spent 6 months in the county prison. He kicked his heroin addiction there.
Granted, he's not in recovery and still smokes pot, but I am sooooo much better because of soberrecovery and alanon meetings.
I've learned and accepted the 3 c's, the 12 steps, and all that goes with codependency recovery. You and your family are more than welcome to read from the site, share your stories, join alanon meetings, and keep coming back.
What I'd advise not doing? Continuing to ignore the problem and continuing to enable your bil. He needs a rude awakening. Whether it be from his family or from the bank.
Sending prayers up for you, your family, and your bil.
I pray he hits rock bottom before he dies from this disease.
