What addicts do...
I've just been reading the sticky 'what addicts do'
My A and I split up for a while last year, when he started using heavily I think. He always told me it was because he was trying to protect me from himself. That he didn't love himself and so couldn't give me the love I deserved. He knew he was falling down, but wasn't ready to do anything about it. At that point I didn't know he was addicted, I didn't know he was even using (think I was always last to freakin' know!!).
Not sure what my point is here!! Maybe reinforcing the idea for me that yeah, I did have to let him go, until he was ready to come back and ask for help. And maybe I have to stand back again, let him make his own mistakes.
If he's using again or not, if he is 'just' selling it off, he has to make his own mistakes. I can tell him my opinion on it, and whether he listens to it or not, or acts on it or not, is his choice.
Does this make sense?!