He came back
Well he changed his mind. Our doctor friend talked to him. He decided to come back home. Hopefully with a change of heart but I am unsure. Court went well in my opinion. They actually called me to see if I wanted anything added to the probation. That was surprising to me. Here is what he has to abide by for the next 12 months or he gets 18 months in jail if he breaks it:
No drinking
No drugs
He can not enter any place that has VLTs or other gambling machines or booze, so no gambling or drinking.
He can't even purchase booze of any sort.
Drug treatment(they are making it mandatory that he goes to treatment on the 17th)
He has to get therapy for anger management and for his addictions
He has to follow all the medical and therapy requirements of his probation officer.
He has to see his probation officer regularly
All of this I am glad about. And when I gave him my list of house rules he read it and agreed to all of it.
Today went well with only one upset. My husbadn is an avid hunter. And he still has 2 tags left for this season. A mule deer tag and an elk tag. Well one of the things he had done that I discovered when he took off was that instead of locking the guns in the gun cabinet he had left them out next to it and left the work room door, where the cabinet is, unlocked so the kids could go in. I am parinoid about this so since the rifles are actully in his dads name I had him come and get the guns. Well hubby still wants to get his tags so wants to get the guns back. I told him it was up to his dad. I had sent his dad and mom a lot of info from here so they are learning just like me. So when he phoned his dad his dad said it was up to me. So I explained to hubby that because of his careless actions the guns were not allowed in the house. If he wanted to go hunting he would have to either borrow a gun from a friend for a day or from his dad for a day. But no guns kept here. So he could still hunt just with a little inconvience. He was very upset with that. Threw the "you do not trust me" card out there. but I did not falter. I was very impressed with his parents not giving in either and leaving it up to me. Took hubby a while but he is no longer as upset since we are all sticking to our "guns" persay. lol
So so far so good. I keep reminding myself one day at a time. I just have to get through one day at a time. Thanks to our doctor friend too who talked me down yesterday. I was really freaking out but he helped me a huge deal. So does reading everything here.
Nikki