Thanks so much for this post! I'm still farely new to this site and have been wondering the same thing for awhile now. My AH is not abusive in any way just doesn't know when to stop drinking for the night or when he's said too much or acted really stupid.Anyways I've been thinking about leaving but my motive was to "make him quit by wanting us back".However he doesn't want to quit and says that if i left he'd just get worse. As of right now I have decided not to leave, I am going to try the Al Anon meetings and hopefully that will give me a new perspective ( i dont know how to take care of myself) on how to treat the situation. I am not leaving because he leaves for deployment in a month or so and I/and our son need to be here. I am thinking I will use the deployment to be my own person (something i've never done)
Great post gave,helped me out!