(((Cece)))) THIS REINFORCES THAT THE SON YOU RAISED HAS BEEN HIJACKED BY HIS ADDICTION. My son has had legal prob. in the past and I've never given any $$ for legal fees either That is one of the boundaries I am firm on. Therefor my son never asked bec I let it be known early on don't come to me with legal prob. In my parent's group about 100% OF THE TIME WHEN I HEAR a report of a adult child choosing recovery it is because it is an option mandated by the court in lieu of more jail time.
Your son is not liking the conseq. of his lifestyle. Good ! Maybe he is heading in the right direction...down. Because that seems to be the only spring board back up.
I now this hurts. But take pride that you weren't manipulated.