Moosie,
You're the best! And Cece, it sounds to me like your son banged up against your boundaries and he didn't like it. It helps me to remember when my son was a little boy, I had to reinforce some things that were for his own good but he didn't like it ONE bit. I was a MEAN MOMMY.
Both you know, and I know we are good mothers, we are now, and always have been, so what is it that's gets us so down and dejected when we say NO and maintain our boundaries? (must be a mom gene...LOL)
I guess there are a few of us MEAN MOMS.
Your son has some important life lessons to learn, and hopefully he'll learn them quickly.
Hugs from mom to mom (meanies one and all)
Cats