Cece,
Ok, refresher course here....:-)
Blame & guilt are two of things most commonly used by our addicted loved ones in order to manipulate us. You stuck to your guns, so he thought he'd pull out his even bigger guns and maybe wear (or shoot) you down. Didn't work and he wasn't a happy camper.
Just remember....take the "bla, bla, bla" out of BLAME, and all you have left is "me".
He's all he can think about right now. So his blame isn't about you, cece. His addiction has him thinking about nothing but what he wants and how he might go about getting it.
And I bet he does love and miss you. But his addiction is driving him right now, and that is what you hear in the phone conversations...the addiction.
You handled yourself very well and did what was best for both of you. And yes, I know that doesn't make the hurt or sadness go away. But you can feel good about the fact that you are not "loving" your child to death.
Big hugs cause I'm another mom who understands the hurt,
Hangin' In