(((Cece))))
Now get a grip here. Yes, it hurts when somehow they get it all turned around on us, and WE end up feeling crummy. (Something is wrong with that picture!)
Both you know, and I know we are good mothers, we are now, and always have been, so what is it that's gets us so down and dejected when we say NO and maintain our boundaries? (must be a mom gene...LOL)
I've been there too, called uncaring, and you don't love me, and you want me in jail, you name it, I've heard it. But, it's the combination of drugs, and anger talking so, most of the time I can ignore it.
You sound like you got the same story my son told me...I wasn't selling drugs...swore up and down to me he wasn't...but then he got caught, and that blew the lid off that lie.
It's going to take a LONG time for me to trust either son....
Hugs to one wonderful mom, from another....