Hey Kitty
It ain't easy. I don't always detach and when I do, its not always with love. But lately I've learned the fighting only makes me stressed out and no matter how much booze I find and get rid of, he will always get more. So little by little I do things for me. Hoping that if he sees a change in me and that I am not taking care of him anymore, he might see the light so to speak. I certainly don't approve of what he does but there is really nothing I can do about it. I tell myself the 3 c's alot - I didn't cause it, I can't control it and I can't cure it. It gets me through sometimes.
I am praying for you that you can find some peace in your horrible situation. Hang in there.
Love,
Debbie