I met my alcoholic husband on Match.com as well. I think it is important to learn from previous experiences---if "Irish Wild Boy" is winking at you (just laugh) and do not wink back (I think I used to think I could handle a wild boy--I now realize I would run like heck)---as well, a nice Christian guy emails you--if you like him--email him back-see where it goes. Your standards should be higher now.
I have listed myself as "I do not drink"--I do not want to attract a social drinker. I will definitely be more selective on who I date in the future.
Match.com is a just one way of meeting other people. Some people go to single groups at different churches. I did not like speed dating in a group.
The holidays are a difficult time to be alone. But I would imagine that there are other single guys out there that just want a great gal to date.