Originally Posted by LaTeeDa
We stay because there is a payoff of some sort.
Yes, LTD, you are very right on. I stayed because XAH provided me with security. Not necessarily financially....just in taking care of things, me, everything. I didn't have to take care of myself if he would keep taking care of us. I didn't realize all of this at the time of course....I always say I'm fiercely independent. But I see now that I'm really very dependent while trying to prove I'm independent. My independence is all intertwined with needing someone to take care of me.
Try to look deep. What is your payoff?