Amy,
Thanxs for the reply! I was just sittin' here thinkin' bout something a therapist said to me long ago...
I was sittin' in her office rambling away, and when I paused for a second, she said, "Bonnie, why is the past alive and present in today?" I imediately copped and attitude, and said, "EXCUSE ME! What the heck do you mean by that??!!" She calmly replied,
"Well, I've sat here and listened to you ramble for 45 mins. now, and all you've gone on and on about is how miserable you were as a child...Why is the past alive and present in today??? Y'know Bonnie, you lived thru the hell of your childhood. You don't NEED those survival defenses today. You've already survived it all."
Made a HUGE difference in how I reacted and thought about things!! Even now, many years later, when I find myself "reacting" to something, I slow down enuf to ask myself, "Bonnie, what are you REALLY reacting to??" It's a great reality check!!!!
Later!
Bonnie!
