Hi Sugarplum, what a wonderful name. I can relate to your story. I am having trouble deciding what to do about my husbands active drinking and the environment that creates for me and our teen age kids. I have tried making an ultimatium, one that I wasn't ready to back up with action. I don't recommend that course. Now I am trying to change my reactions to his drinking and other circumstances in our life. I have found some success by changing my behavior. Then other days I end up screaming at him like crazy.
Welcome, this board has made such a diference in my life over the past months. These folks really listen and care about you. Share whenever you need to. take care..