She is 35. Well past the time to take care of herself. She can do it. She just has to be willing. As long as someone is willing to bail her out, then she will continue to do what she is doing. My daughter is 21. She may well be an addict when she is 35, but it won't be because I have helped her. Hugs to you and the biggest advice that I can give you is to give up the guilt, take care of yourself and let her do the same. If the calls seeking pity bother you, it is okay to tell her that you love her, hope that she finds her way, but you don't feel comfortable dealing with her problems. Addicts have to be willing to help themselves and when you hear the same story again and again, you know that they are not. Marle