((((hugs))))
You are an inspiration. Detachment at it's finest.
I like LTD's post
The reason we try to control other people is to protect ourselves from our feelings
There is so much truth in that for me. For so long I needed to control the outcome because I didn't know how to deal with the other person's consequences as well as my own.
As Jazzman said to me once - we are sometimes just holding up a domino in a run for a time. When we walk away, the run continues. Problem is, sometimes when we stay, the weight of the domino is so heavy for us and we feel we can't move from that position and so are stuck. It is up to the other person to put the rest of the dominos back in the box - we can't do it for them. Sometimes, walking away is the only option if one life is to be lived. I did it too without knowing what would happen. As it is, he found someone else to keep the domino from falling. One day he might not.
Glad to hear you are doing good, but sorry your return is under these circumstances.