Originally Posted by
FormerDoormat 
The saddest part about looking around the room in Alanon and seeing all the sad, pathetic faces is knowing that this life wasn't forced upon the partners of alcoholics. They choose to live that way. Hopefully, in time Alanon will help them understand that.
I AGREE! And that is what got me to very quickly GET OUT! Well that and the abusive actions and the continuous lies. The meetings I attended at alanon did not teach anyone or encourage anyone to get out - they taught people how to deal with existing with an alcoholic. That just was not for me. It would have slowly killed me and that is what it was doing to the people who were enduring it year after year.