Originally Posted by
Spiritual Seeker 
I learned that as the parent when the A calls we don't have to agree to anything.
Until it becomes natural you can print a piece of paper and put it by the phone.
"I love you, I believe in you and I know that you'll do the right thing" This is after you say NO to any requests that are not approp for you.
This is SO true.
One my my AS's favorite tactics is to try to get us to make a decision RIGHT NOW. Just being able to say, "I will not make that decision now" was a big step for me.
One thing I keep telling myself: I love my son unconditionally. But unconditional love doesn't equal unconditional money, unconditional housing, unconditional legal assistance, etc.
Thank you!