Originally Posted by
Spiritual Seeker 
Find him a halfway house. I just read on here yesterday that some one else's son just finished six mos. at a Salvation Army rehab. Compromise with your wife. Tell her NO he can't live here but she or both of you can invest. alternatives. This are county fee based programs that are on sliding scale and he'd need to get job at their req. to pay his share. OXFORFD houses are all over the country set up the same way.
Thank you so much for the advice and support! Yes, he should go to a halfway house. He was in one for a few days last spring but stole a car from another resident and ran away. He says halfway houses "don't work" for him (translation: they expect him to get a job and he's allergic to jobs). But as I see it it's either halfway house or live on the street!
Thanks also for the tip on Oxford Houses ... looks like there are some in our area so I'll check into that!