I never thought is would be possible to accept my son's addiction. Then I learned that acceptance is not condoning the situation, just acknowledging that it is what is it is and that I am powerless over it.
That led me to a better perspective of compassion and a healthier place where I discovered that I had to take care of myself or I would surely be dragged into that dark place with him.
Acceptance took me to reality and allowed me to see how addiction was affecting me. It took me to a place where I can turn it all over to God, who can do for us what we cannot do for ourselves.
When I let go of my resistance I stopped living in the problem and began living in the solution, and for me that made all the difference.
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