QT, there are have been many posters who have come and gone from these forums over the time I have been here. Some have left because they have moved on to a new phase in their recovery, some have gone to get their heads patted elsewhere, some have felt a better fit on other boards. Others, though, I have cause to worry about because they are the ones that were living in violent, or potentially violent situations. We never hear from them again and we have no way of knowing if they are even still alive. And I am guessing that some of them may not be.
I would have liked to have got to know you, QT, however I am left feeling that I know your husband better. I hope you are able to find the strength and support to achieve a peaceful life.