Originally Posted by
jerseyjane 
He says frankly he won't be comfortable in my home and why should he have to suffer.
It's his right not to suffer - suggest he may be more comfortable staying at the hotel.
Alcoholism is not a dirty word - it is a disease. I think you know your father suffers from it, as well as your husband. Have YOU talked to the therapist about it? Because you are also suffering due to it.
Good luck to you and I hope the children do get to grow up in the type of home you want for them.